To b or no to be

I was talking to a friend about relationships and marriage. As she is looking for suitors, she told me a very interesting incident which happened with her. 

While we were discussing about marriage and relationships, she told me how she felt about the whole arranged marriage scenario. Which I’m sure most of you reading this, would find an awkward thing to do. The scene is no different for her. She is totally opposed to the idea of arranged marriage. Marriage is something one should do, when one is ready and also, with someone you think you can spend your life with, somebody you are compatible with. So, under great pressure she agreed to meet the grooms, with one tiny condition, that she will meet the person first and if she likes it, then only the things will move forward. With hesitation, her parents agreed.

The day comes, when she has to go and meet the guy. They meet, everything goes well. On coming back, she gives a heads up to the family. But, the guy has to leave the city next day, so the family meeting an all has to wait, till he comes back or this is what she thinks. After a few days, she receives a message from the guy asking her

“ If it is okay that our parents meet without me being present or do you want to meet before that?”

On giving proper thought, she replied to him,

“ I think parents should meet when both of us are present and also, I would like to meet you once before the parents meet.”

She told her mother that, he messaged about meeting of parents without him and as she knew her mother she didn’t tell the thing about meeting him before that, thinking she would do that once he is here and ask them to meet him before that.

She didn’t knew what she has signed up for!!

Few days later, her mother being the impatient type calls up this guy, to know if parents can meet before he came back. That guy, literally lashed out to her mother saying that “your daughter lies to you, as she said she would like to “date” before going any further with the parents thing”.

Her mother got really angry listening to this, as any mother would be, but not on that guy. She literally, confronted her daughter regarding this, how could she ask the guy to meet, on her own?. My friend was really upset, as she clearly asked him to meet once, which is fair enough in todays time.

A person like my friend, who wants somebody who is understanding and open minded at the same time acts as a friend first and then may be a husband or a lover or something. I think she is not asking for something elaborate or something which she cannot give back. Also, parents today have changed a lot, perhaps may be hers need a little change is perspective.

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Being fair

Being fair in this unfair world, is like being unfair to yourself. I am in a profession where customer service is required to be given, being placed in a city like Delhi- it’s a real tough task. You just cannot satisfy a customer in delhi. When you are working in an environment, where every other customer is coming to you and is shouting at you for following banking procedures & guidelines, you will feel that they are being unfair to you.

While, you are being fair to you job, the customer is being unfair to you. Well this scenario can be managed to some extent, if your staff is supportive. When your staff is not supporting you, there starts whole new story. What do you do in this case?

I remembered an all time favourite quote of mine, If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you did not eat him” . The world in not fair, it never was. Its time that we stop expecting it to be. Just fight your fight. Living a life is like driving a bike/car, You have to drive in a way that you save yourself and the others too. Live your life in a way that you save yourself and other too.

I’m not suggesting that you don’t take risks, do take them but some calculated ones and sometimes wild ones. Go on with an attitude that you will handle everything that comes in your way.

April Fool’s Day

Between fooling fooling people for a day and being fooled by reality every single day, we all grew up. #Aprilfool’sday

An officially, designated day to fool people by playing practical jokes. Some get fooled by it and some doesn’t. Lucky who can catch the bluff in those pranks, but what about the pranks life play with us?

When we finally become happy, it takes away everything from us.

When we finally settle down, it shifts everything upside down.

When you are ready to love, it doesn’t gives you love.

When you have given up all hope, it brings all the love in your life.

Maybe, being fooled by life is called L.I.F.E.

Be fool enough to enjoy life, don’t take things seriously.

LIVE the LIFE you imagined not the one society chose for you.


"Never regret anything in life, because it was exactly you wanted at one point of time." 
 Maverick Oxymoron

Human is the only animal who has the ability to think and react to a situation. We go on with our lives, in the vicious circle of society and sometimes do things which we don’t want to do and sometimes we don’t do things which we want to do. Life, when lived in a society becomes very very complicated. Let’s see for an instance, people get married even if they are not ready, why ? The society makes you feel, you are lagging behind in life, just because you are a certain age you should settle down. Even if that person is not ready to settle down!! And end up regretting it!!

Never to anything in pressure. You have got a brain, use it!! And Never regret anything you decide to do.


Socially Awkward!

The other day, a friends parent came to my office and walks around and then walks around my table and tell me that their kids are going to Mauritius, and that he has just dropped them to the airport. After a little while, I realised he just came to tell me that his kids have gone to Mauritius for a vacation and he didn’t come for any kind of work. Thats the point, where I couldn’t stop laughing. What was he thinking? He came just to show off that they can afford a family vacation to some place abroad or does he think I can’t afford to go anywhere with a job like mine. I really don’t understand the purpose of this kind of show off!! I mean I know people who as basically nothing in real life, no earning nothing, but when you see them, they have a iPhone (probably second hand), the best of clothes ( bought at the roadside shops/fake brands), and all they can do is show off!!

When you talk to them, all the pour is name of brands, be it electronics, clothing whatever, you name it and the have it. Does buying brands give you fulfilment?

What does people get out of show off? It really puts me off!! why can’t people be real for once? Why is showing you are superior to someone so important?  Does anyone feel like this? Or am I the only one who feel this as a really shallow thing?

It’s okay

It’s okay to feel like a mess sometimes.

It’s okay to be not okay all the time.

It’s okay to recover at your own pace.

Life is not a race.

It’s okay to grow at your own pace.


Maverick Oxymoron

One Chance


when you wake up every morning, life gives you a chance to make this day count in your life. Like, life gives us a chance to prove to ourselves that we are something, we give a chance to people in our life to prove that they mean something to us or the opposite.

With the advent of technology, we are moving towards a really impatient world. Earlier, we used to wait in a big line just to make a phone call to a loved one, we used to wait for after 11PM to book a intercity phone call to a loved one, but still there was love, despite the distance we stayed together. Now, these loved ones are just a phone call away, or I should say just a touch away, thanks to the new smartphones in everyone’s pockets. But but but, we are far apart, more than the physical distance.

When we meet someone, first of all we are not at all interested, unless it is a really pretty girl, someone rich or someone dead. If that interests us, pretty girl – How can I get into her pants!! Rich person – How can I own some share of is money, Someone dead – well thats when we realise, may be we should have known this person as a human being!!

What has happened to the society today, when we have a chance to know someone, we don’t, all we want to do then is getting in their pants or their wallet. I am losing myself in this kind of world, trying to make friends, people stalk you to know who you are then they manipulate their words so that you like them, but what the hell!! Why so much effort, just because you like their face and you would really like to get in their pants and in one day you decide that you cannot cannot make it through, no matter what you do!!

Meeting someone online, trying to know them, well no, thats not important as there are important things to do.One day it has been, and you are ready to ask for nudes and ready to send your videos masturbating. No effort, for even trying to know someone. It is a really pathetic state. Its as if there is no place for feelings, friendship and relationships. Only feeling left here is lust, only friendship left here is with money, only relationship we have here is with our selfish selves.

Its not wrong to have a relationship with ourselves, its important but don’t overdo it!! We don’t have patience for people, with so much cruelty around, we don’t give people a chance to show who exactly they are and to explain why they behave in a certain way. Its as if, you have only one chance, make it or lose it.

Neha C.


Ex Post facto

December 2016: It looks like the year has gone by in the blink of an eye.

” I walk Slowly, but I never walk backwards”  – Unknown

This has really been my quote all along this year. This year has been so visit, swift and fast, I can even tell how I was feeling on a particular day. I never thought I would be writing this, but lets start from the start of this year and let me see what I have been through.

January : I knew something bad was coming, but still keeping that feeling aside, I took a step forward and promised myself an adventurous year and indeed I gave one to myself ” a very adventurous and full of lessons year”. Stalked my boyfriend to a movie theatre where he was watching a movie with his friends and bummed him for sure.

February: Spent the whole month in anticipation of being asked to get married to him, when infact his parents were searching for a bride for him. Ups and downs.Waiting and more waiting.

March : He did get a marriage proposal, actually 2. One from me and one from his (now) wife. Obviously, we know who is the lucky one here. I seriously don’t believe myself, thatI actually proposed him and he acted as if he didn’t knew, lol (on me). Got inked. Wow. Actually, that is a very interesting story. Impulsive decision, walked into a tattoo parlour without an appointment and got lucky enough get a cancellation right then.

April: Stopped talking to him. Took my first solo trip to the himalayas. While trying to move on met guy from school and mess it up so bad, that, I don’t have words for that.

May: Another one day solo trip.  A little more messed up version with the school guy.

June: Generally, dull and sobbing and getting on with life. Anticipation of moving back home and changing the life i’ve been living for the past 4 years. Reading, doing things I like and trying to have a hold on my life.

July:  Moving back home. Transition not much welcome for a girl who is so used to living alone that someone standing next her makes her leave that place. Well, Here I am back to the crowded city, which pays no heed to your personal space, virtually as well as physically.

August-September-October-November: Everyday is the same. Get up, get ready, go to office, come back, eat, sleep and repeat.

December: Well, December was a little better, but not quite that much. I took the much needed bed rest, which was hurting my back. Reading novels, meeting doctors, watching all theTV i can. Well, after along year, I think this one is a well deserved break.

Well, this is my Retrospective of the entire year.

Neha C.

Pink- The Movie (2016)

I am not going to write a movie review, because this movie doesn’t need a review. Only two words “Must Watch”. This movie is a revolution!! Amazing story by Ritesh Shah. I was actually doing some online research for this article and I saw credits to the producer and directors but nobody mentioned “The Writer” , the main person behind the story, without whom there wouldn’t have been any Pink.   Astounding story!!

The story revolves around an incident which happened between 3 independent women and some rich brats with political links. I am Delhiite and I know every other person you know is rich or have political connections and/or both. Whatever has been depicted in the film is actually the real story of every independent girl in some way or the other, but the irony is not every girl stands up and fight for it. It is either the family name or what Mr. Sharma will say or you won’t get a good match or something like that cooked up. The question is not why every girl stand up, the question is why there are these kind of incidents? Why a guy cannot understand that outraging the modesty of a women is not “manly”? It only makes you a coward and a male chauvinist and a patriarch !!

It has been rightly pointed out in the movie that boys who treat women this way have not  been raised properly or they have not been raised by a women. There is a saying “A man who treats his women like a princess, has been raised in the arms of a queen” . This is so true. The move raises so many questions, on the upbringing of men, on the status of women in our so called westernized society. I mean a women who drinks/ have a tattoo/ have been pierced in places other than ears/ colored her hair, how does these things define a women’s character? I am appalled by the thinking of men!!

A lady who talks to you like a friend is not inviting you, and this is what men have to understand. A lady who has a tattoo may have a bank balance more than your entire family’s. A lady who drinks at the bar may be more sober than you ever were in you life.

It really prickles my skin to see the sorry state of the society, it really is not what a modernized society. I think its time, that we stop judging others and start improving ourselves. That will be a great contribution for the society.

Neha C.